Saturday, 23 August 2014

Pondering on Friendship

Friendship is a precious thing. 

Some friendships are fluid and like elastic, you bounce back together after not seeing each other for ages and nothing has changed it is like you were only together the day before. 

Other friendships need more work and change over time as you and your friend grow and change - some times one of you may grow and change so much that the friendship just doesn't survive. Other times your differences and changes just make it a different stronger friendship.

Bob Marley, when talking about friendship said, “The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” 


My question is how do you know when a friendship is worth the fight and how long do you keep on fighting for that friendship.

My best friend is my hubs, has been for years, I tell him everything and have no secrets from him. He knows all my history and I know his and he has been a brilliant friend and husband, particularly over the last few years when life has been more challenging. 

Playing ball with the smallest child

I have other great friends, who I see as often as life lets us. Some I have known since infant school and before, others I have met as an adult. 

All of my friendships are different. Two of my oldest friends love to travel and as they are both teachers they have taken their skills overseas. One is currently heading out to Borneo for 3 years whilst the other is on her way to China. I shall miss them, but with the great technology we have these days I can still talk to them with out the exorbitant costs we once had. 

Some of my other friends are home bodies like me and I see them when I can but we live in different parts of the country and because of the fatigue from the drugs I take I am often too tired to travel. One lives in Wales by the seaside, I would love to go and see her house but it is a three hour drive and I am not sure how I would cope with the drive. 

Other friends I had, at college for example, I have drifted away from, although I have reconnected with some via the magic of social media, which is nice.

I wonder how other people hold onto the more challenging friendships, do you find time, see less of your kids, work less, rest less so you can spend time with them?

I worry about my friendships. I think I know my friends less and less as I see less of them, and I am guessing that is probably the case, but then other friends just know me and visa versa. Are some of my friends less my friend then? 

I am probably over thinking it but it's complicated and I wonder what others think?

Thursday, 21 August 2014

World Photo Day - The Gallery

I am a bit late for this but I was traveling back from lovely Norfolk with my girls yesterday and a bit tired later on.

Any way, earlier this week it was World Photo Day and the Gallery was celebrating this, this week.

I have three photo's for this week - one is specifically for my pal Tara who runs the Gallery.

Whilst I was away, we went to Sandringham (The Queen's country residence), It is surrounded by beautiful woodland, and whilst the girls were playing I took this.

I love the sun coming through and all the different types of trees.

The second photo is  of the seaside, I love the seaside, one day hubs and I hope to end up living by the seaside.

I think my daughter sums up what it is about the seaside that I like, you can close your eyes, feel the sun on your face and here the sea rumbling behind you and be any where in the world. Lovely.




And finally, if I did believe in something bigger, photo's like this would help. The rays of sun shining through the clouds just seem otherworldly and awesome.


For more photo's like this head to the Gallery (link above).



Sunday, 17 August 2014

The Sound of Music

We have always liked music, hubs and I although neither of us were particularly good at it, hubs used to play bass and I had played a little bit of guitar and trumpet, hubs had dabbled for a long time and I had stopped after school.

When we had the girls we thought to ourselves we really must encourage their musicality. We brought all the usual kids toy instruments, penny whistles and xylophones and they banged and blew loudly. As they got bigger we bought an electric keyboard and guitars.

Hubs decided to take up guitar again around this time. And he practiced, and practiced .... He has a little room in the house just for him, his computers and his growing collection of guitars and sound pedals. And he practiced and practiced.

The girls continue to wonder in and play keyboard with him, both of them have guitars and can play a little.

One year on my birthday I was woken to the girls and hubs serenading me singing and playing happy birthday. Possibly one of his most romantic moments ever....and he is good at the old romantic moment.

But if there is one thing I love, it is wondering around the house mooching, doing chores and I can here him strumming and picking out tunes I recognise. It's incredibly calming, soothing and lovely and he is literally filling our house with music.

learning the Travis picking thingy...apparently


Friday, 15 August 2014

Summer Holidays - Week One

I realise lots of you have already been off for weeks and enjoyed scorchio weather. (My hubs is included in this...not that I am in anyway bitter...ahem), but now the weather is a bit rainy and a bit colder it is my holiday time (OK, maybe a little bit bitter). So this is my week 1 of 2.

Day one. Saturday. Did nothing except the washing.  Boo.

Day two. Sunday. Went to see my friend Biggles as she is off on her travels again. A lovely goodbye BBQ.

Jon gets his sausages on
Here is her hubs in charge of the BBQ.

Day three. Monday. Had to go into work as I left an SD card there - had lunch with work friends and daughters wondered at the many buttons and security aspects of getting into my office....strangely they thought this was exceptionally cool. Which I will take as a win.

We came home and I played with my macro lens (not a euphemism) and got some pretty pictures.


Day four. Tuesday. Drove to Shrewsbury to take my Dad for an X-Ray. Afterwards we visited Biggles again, my girls played with her girl and their friends little 2 year old girl and had a lovely time, they also played with Tess the grumpy old man looking girl dog. Such a sweet thing.

Tess the girl dog that looks like a grumpy old man but is actually very lovely
Day five. Wednesday. We had to stay in as I was waiting for a parcel to be delivered (my smallest girls birthday present shhhhhhhh......)So the girls chilled out watching movies and I had a day in the pod and took some cat pictures.
Millie, our cat.
Day six. Thursday. Today we went to the local library for a treasure hunt. The girls are doing the 6 week reading challenge so it was linked to that. They caught up with some school friends and had a great time. All for free. It is well worth checking out what is happening at your local library. Then more macro photography for me.

Close up of the furry purple sage
Day six. Friday. Today we went to see my old pal Tara and went for a lovely walk round the back of a needle museum (who knew there were museums for needles...then again...why not?). The girls had a great time and much fun was had, particularly whilst paddling in the stream.


 So that was the first six days. More to come soon :)

Wednesday, 2 July 2014

The Gallery - A Younger Me

This is me, in 1977, I was 9 and this was our first big holiday that I remember. Here I am standing on the bridge above Niagara Falls with one foot in Canada and one foot in America.

I remember the long walk along the bridge to get to this point and the amazing view, but mostly the sound of the falls. A huge sound, indescribable and thunderous. It was awesome. We went on the maid of the mist afterwards and went behind the falls.

We went for 6 weeks, and traveled all over Canada (we have relatives there and visited all of them), we went to the Calgary Stampede an old school rodeo, the Japanese garden in Lethbridge, Alberta, the rotating restaurant in Toronto (the CN Tower) and then in America we went to Yellowstone park and camped out, Dad had an axe under his pillow because of the bears and we saw Old Faithful the Geyser that goes every hour.

We did lots of other things too like visit a native America reservation and all sorts of other stuff. It was a great holiday.

To get this holiday, Dad had to save up his holiday at work over about three years, and our holidays prior to this were always camping whilst we saved up for our Canadian adventure. This is how I remember our holidays prior to this one.

Always cold and outside. Brrrrr.... it was worth it though.

For more Younger Me's go to the Gallery over at Tara's Blog here.

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